>> Advice >> I'm pregnant and my partner is more interested in porn

LoveMagic writes "6 December 2004: hi, i dont know if im wirtting to the right people but if so could you please help.

Im a 20yr old women and ive been with my partner for almost a year.I just recently found that i was pregnant which was most unexpected but as i was in the late stages before i found out i have chosen to keep the baby and bring it up as best as i can,My partner was very shocked at first but he said he would stick by me and things wouldnt change between me and him.

Life is very difficult at he moment as we have had lots to sort in a short amount of time ie preparing for a baby and finding suitable accomadation but things seemed to have change dramatically between us.

I have moved in with him and his parents until we find somewhere more suitable but the love seems to have been lost since this.

When he comes home from work he gets straight on his computer and rearly makes any kind of contact with me, we dont have any kind of sex life anymore and its making me feel very down.

Since ive moved in ive also realised how much porn he looks at on his computer, when i first saw it i was stunned but didnt say anything but now i have to sleep in a spare room because i keep him awake because im 8 months pregnant and trying to get comtable often takes a while and i feel that when im in there and he's on his computer looking at other women that he no longer finds me attractive or wants me. Ive tried to explain to him how i feel and that it really does hurt me but he just says every bloke looks at porn and it doesnt mean anything,but to me when i feel so neglected and un loved it does mean something.

He has also kept photos taken of his ex girlfriend on his computer, and these arnt your avarge photos either! there of her him and her doings sexual things.When i confronted him about these he said he didnt look at them anyore but i know he does (because ive seen the proof) so i asked him to get rid of them and he said he would but he just hid them on another file on his computer but i found them again.He has also become a member on lots of diffrent porn sites and he has used the photos of him and his ex to up the profile, so he reiceves mails from people about how great they look.

I do trust him and dont think he would cheat on me but i cant understand why he needs all of these photos of her and why he takes porn to such an extent,its truley making me feel unloved and hurt and im considering leaving him because i cant handle it anymore.
please help.
Thanks, "