Dating Tips: The Six Secrets of Attaining Romance
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Lullaby writes "Men and women are positioned against one another in the battle for more fulfilling relationships; today they are being urged to consider that romantically they are setting themselves up for failure. By holding unrealistic expectations and believing fabrications told to them by pop culture, men and women are paralyzed in their pursuit for romance. At Authentic Messages, a message in a bottle company, we are continually searching for new ways to mobilize people towards a more romantic life.
Women are deceived by the unattainable dream of the romantic man (soon she comes to believe that every man is romantic except the man in her lifeâŠdespite the fact that all her female friends are experiencing the same dilemma); men are overwhelmed because they bear sole responsibility for the romantic shape of their relationship and they are immobilized by this burden. Unfortunately both end up unsatisfied. Let me tell you a secret â most people arenât romantic. There is no such thing as the ânaturally romanticâ person â like most things, romance is learned, practiced and perfected.
From the time they are children, men and women are exposed to innumerable fairy tales where prince charming sweeps the princess off her feet with his romantic tendencies â the last time I checked there werenât too many prince charming types out there. Okay so there are a handful of âprince charmingsâ that give all other men a bad reputation â but the only difference between the romantic man and the unromantic man is the amount of time devoted to something they deem to be important. Romantic men have already figured out the 2nd secret (which we believe in at Authentic Messages) â romance really is important.
Women arenât left blameless in this quest for romance (even though they typically try to absolve themselves of responsibility) â how many women are willing to take responsibility for the lack of romance in their relationships? Itâs the 21st century ladies - be accountable! We want to be equal but our ârantsâ about equality havenât yet crossed over into the romantic realm. Youâve heard it said time and time again: âMen just arenât interested in being romancedâ. The elusive âbeing romancedâ is really about being appreciated and loved. Who doesnât like to be appreciatedâŠwhich leads me to secret number 3 (I like to call #3 the âno-brainerâ): regardless of gender, people want to feel they are special to another person; they want to be valued for who they are.
When we think about romance, we tend to have tunnel vision. We donât realize that romance isnât definable â it can be anything to anyone. What is romantic to Person A may not be the least bit romantic to Person B â why canât romance be defined? The answer to that is simple â romance is, as secret 3 revealed, about making someone feel loved and appreciated. Ultimately romance is incredible personal. Different things are going to make different people feel loved, so donât get caught up in the idea that itâs a waste of time to be romantic because your partner doesnât like, and may even dislike, the mushy romance of movies. Of course this brings us to secret 4 â you need to find the romance that is right for your relationship. Having no definition is what makes romance so accessible to everyone â it has a constantly changing nature that can be manipulated.
Letâs face it â men and women need a little help and not the kind of help that pop psychologist âgurusâ talk about in their infamous (and equally ineffective) relationship books. Men and women need practical help â real life solutions for a real life problem. Men and women need to be inspired. I count myself an unofficial expert in the field of romance because I see it everyday in my line of work at the romantically themed store Authentic Messages â people are coming to the website looking for ways to be more romantic. These people have learned secret #5 â being romantic doesnât necessarily mean âgoing it aloneâ. You can acquire help from outside sources to add a little romance in your life.
Unexpectedly military personnel have learned this secret better than any other group of people.
Military men and women who are stationed overseas are seeking out realistic solutions to keep the romance alive from thousands of miles away and the internet is helping them in ways not imaginable a decade ago. With the click of a button (and five minutes of their time) those stationed abroad are able to set in motion a process that enables them to communicate and remain connected in meaningful and romantic ways with the partners they have left behind. Iâve never thought much of the old adage that âabsence makes the heart grow fonderâ, however in the case of military men and women âabsence seems to make the heart grow more romanticâ. Leading me to secret #6 â it doesnât take a lot of time, effort or money to be romantic. Even those in the most remote locations are able to achieve the magic that makes a relationship more special (with the help of outside sourcesâŠtaking us back to secret #5).
In order for relationships to be the most fulfilling they can be, both men and women need to take an active interest in the pursuit of romance. Arguably communication, trust and commitment are the foundations of any successful relationship; however a building isnât much with only its foundation. Romance, you might say, is the architectural detailing that makes a building more distinct and similarly a relationship more fulfilling.
The basis of romance is encapsulated in the six secrets revealed above and summarized below.
1: There is no such thing as natural romance.
2: Romance is important.
3: Everyone likes to be âromancedâ.
4: You need to find the romance that is right for your relationship.
5: Being romantic doesnât mean âgoing it aloneâ.
6: It doesnât take a lot of time, effort and money to be romantic.
If this has inspired you to add a little magic to your relationship, check out Authentic Messages.com. We are a web based romantically inspired retail store specializing in the sales of âmessage in a bottleâ gift packages â we have 35 different bottles to choose from and over 200 sample messages for our buyers to choose from. Our messages are predominantly romantic in nature; however we also have messages of encouragement, appreciation and celebration. Your personalized message will come rolled tightly inside of the bottle and the entire bottle will come lying on a bed of wood shavings in one of our stunning wooden or leather display cases. Now your bottle can even come engraved with a special message to your recipient. We will ship either to the buyer or to the receiver which makes this a sensible gift for anyone.
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