The Basics Of Charm
Date: Thursday, October 02 @ 18:39:07 CDT
Topic: Advice
My first thought was if you could go step by step of what me and many other guys should be thinking about when trying to deal with something like: confidence, shyness. My problem is that I am interested in this woman. I am confused by what kind of signs she gives. I'm never quite sure if Ishould talk to her or not, or even when! I'm a mess. The woman that I'm interested in is also very shy as well and well, I'm not that talkative either.
Hello 'Not-Too-Talkative',
Regarding the woman you're interested in, and the current issues that seem to be holding you back right now...
Can I suggest an exercise? For the next 2 - 4 weeks, go to as many shopping malls as you can... Don't worry about buying anything - You're not there to buy - You're there to PRACTICE how to effectively communicate in a way that's known to attract women.
Go from store to store, asking the customer service / sales women about particular items. Now, these are women that are generally programmed to be 'outgoing' (helps get sales), and you should make it a goal to talk in a tone of voice that is a notch or two ABOVE their tone of voice. Tell yourself that you're going to charm them by holding strong eye contact, speaking in an outgoing voice, and being nice at the same time...
These are the basics of charm. But you MUST combine all three elements to maximize the psychological effect you're going for.
You're going to probably be uncomfortable at first, but trust me - after talking to 10 sales people in 10 different stores within only one hour's time, you're going to start to become comfortable with it... After a few days time, it will start to feel extremely natural, and you'll be laughing at just how riduculously easy it is to speak in an outgoing voice and hold strong eye contact, both while being nice.
To summarize: This is the basic formula for charming anyone. Who knew that charm could be this easy! It's the truth. But you won't know unless you try it.
Be sure to keep two important rules in mind:
1) If you give a half-ass attempt, you're going to get half-ass results. But if you go FULL SPEED... every time... You're sure to quickly get FULL SPEED results!
2) In every attempt you make at charming a woman, always make sure you're presentable... "dressing for success"... and you'll soon have the confidence to approach any woman in your sites, and in the end the "charm" to easily attract her.
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